gay marriage and religion 2

Posted: February 27, 2011 in gay marriage
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Furthermore, in addition to an unknown number of state and local legal benefits of marriage, there are over 1,100 federal benefits associated with marriage. Marriage in the United States is a legal status and one’s legal status affects every aspect of one’s life. Here is a partial list of legal issues affected by marital status:

  • Access to Military Stores
  • Assumption of Spouse’s Pension
  • Bereavement Leave
  • Immigration
  • Automatic Housing Lease Transfer
  • Bereavement Leave
  • Burial Determination
  • Child Custody
  • Crime Victim’s Recovery Benefits
  • Divorce Protections
  • Domestic Violence Protection
  • Exemption from Property Tax on Partner’s Death
  • Immunity from Testifying Against Spouse
  • Insurance Breaks
  • Joint Adoption and Foster Care
  • Joint Bankruptcy
  • Joint Parenting (Insurance Coverage, School Records)
  • Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner
  • Certain Property Rights
  • Reduced Rate Memberships
  • Sick Leave to Care for Partner
  • Visitation of Partner’s Children
  • Visitation of Partner in Hospital or Prison
  • Wrongful Death (Loss of Consort) Benefits

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Ok, so after reading this list, and mind you it’s just a small part of the rights and privileges given to married couples, I think it’s time to discuss this. The link is where this is found.

I have only read parts 1-3 of this 14 part series, and am working on the rest, but I wanted to post this while it was fresh in my mind.

So, looking at these rights for married couples, how can a “religious and god-loving” person truly say that any person doesn’t deserve to have a marriage to whomever they love? In part 1 of this series, he explained it…the religious right is making tens of millions of dollars, and they are doing it begging for money to fight this “sinful” behavior from becoming legal. It has nothing to do with their religious beliefs, because their beliefs make no difference to us in the rest of the world, except that they are carrying a message of hate that others are listening to. It has nothing to do with following God’s word, because no where does he say “Go forth and force others to your opinion and interpretation of what YOU think my Word says.” He speaks of loving thy neighbor, doing unto others, etc…..Jesus only speaks of love and tolerance for others. Christ NEVER said that anyone’s love is better than another’s. And because YOU think that your love is better than mine is reason enough to spread hatred, causing dozens and at times hundreds of families to split, teens committing suicide from being tormented by YOUR children, and adults being bashed and murdered because YOU think my love isn’t as good as yours?? Hmmmmm.

Years ago, most of us would have been ok with having something of the same value and not called “marriage”. Not anymore. You have proven that not even calling it something other than “marriage” is good enough for you to shut up and be civil. So now, you must deal with the consequences. We will not stop until there is Gay Marriage in all 50 states. Civil Unions are just a step in the right direction. We will have our FULL rights someday. And to all you “christian conservatives” that feel that gay marriage is so obscene that you must fight against it with all your will and might, take a look at the movie Prayers for Bobby….when that happens to YOUR child, we will feel no sympathy for you, only for your child, because YOU are the ones driving these children to do these things.

How obscene is it to NOT love your children unconditionally?? Many LGBTQ teens are thrown out of their homes just because they are gay, and some as young as 12 and 13. How do you condone this?? It is YOUR preaching that makes people feel that they are in the right as parents to do this to their children. Children that are not even grown yet, and must live on the streets where they are mugged and raped, where they don’t have enough food, and even now  some of the “christian” shelters won’t help them just because they are gay. How christian IS this?!? Take a close look at the consequences that come about from your hatred. And when you look inside yourself and be honest, you will see that it IS hatred, that’s all it is.

I truly say that, if we can not have equal rights, then we shall proceed to fight to stop paying taxes at all. It is not legal for us to have to pay taxes and not have all the rights that others have in this country. It’s not fair that we have loving and committed relationships for 40, 50, or more years, and end up broke and destitute and impoverished because our partners’ benefits do not qualify in our relationship. It’s not fair for you to throw around how “promiscuous” a group of people are when you forbid them to have a real relationship status?? And it’s not fair that these children have to listen to you spout off about them burning in hell when they aren’t old enough to understand why, and that sticks with them for the rest of their lives.

As I said, the list above is just a very short list of things we are forbidden, because somehow people believe that giving me a right is taking away from their right. How ludicrous. Stand in the others’ shoes for once. Think of what your life would be if heterosexuality were the “abnormal” and you were denied all these things. Not allowed to take time off if your spouse dies, not allowed to make many legal decisions when it comes to medical treatment, having to pay tax on your partner’s estate and having it taken from you more often than not by his/her family, or even not being able to take time off for a partner that is ill and needs care for awhile. Being fired from your job, just because you are heterosexual. Taking 2 seconds to give your partner a kiss on the cheek after meeting for lunch while one is at work, and risking being accosted and beaten just because of that one little kiss on the cheek. Not being able to hold your partner’s hand in public, EVER, because of fear of heterophobes. And this is just the tip of the iceberg of things that heterosexuals take for granted in their relationships, and yet deny us in the same breath.

Enjoy your time, people, because ours is coming. Coming OUT! 🙂


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